A 3-Part Virtual Course For Babes Who Want To Rock Their Relationships.
Before you begin, take some time to congratulate yourself on investing in the quality of your relationships.
With over 7 billion people on our Earth, can you even begin to imagine how much more success you’ll achieve as you become increasingly better at dealing with people?!
We understand that dealing with people can be frustrating, which is exactly why we designed this course to help you handle people during your hustle.
Happy Learning, Friend!
*This course is inspired by Dale Carnegie’s How To Win Friends And Influence People
Part 1: Why You Shouldn’t Criticize People and Complain About Their Behavior
It’s common for humans to not take full responsibility for ourselves and to rationalize and/or explain away our behaviors.
Why? Perhaps because criticism doesn’t feel good. It hurts our pride and can make us feel less important.
Famous Psychologist B.F. Skinner proved that animals that are rewarded for good behavior rather than punished for bad behavior learn more quickly and also keep more of what they learn.
When we criticize someone, it often doesn’t improve the situation and often makes the other person grow to resent us.
So, when we send out criticism, the negativity often just comes right back around to us.
Abe Lincoln has a pretty awesome quote: “Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.”
When you’re dealing with the people in your life, remember that people are not creatures of logic but rather creatures of emotion.
It is soooo easy to criticize people and complain about their actions, but if you can come from a place of understanding and be forgiving, that speaks volumes about your character!
Think of a specific time when someone did something that you didn’t like, and you reacted by criticizing him or her.
What was the outcome of that situation?
Did criticizing him or her improve the situation?
How did that person feel about you after you criticized them?
How could you have reacted different to improve the situation?
Part 2: How To Show Bomb Appreciation
The only way to get someone to do something is to make him or her want to do it.
People desire to feel important!
Let’s repeat: People desire to feel important.
You’ll hear that a lot in these courses because we find it crucial to practice and keep fresh in our minds the fact that people desire to feel important so that we can best lead our followers.
Humans desire to feel appreciated, and everybody loves a compliment.
When giving praise, be sincere.
Most of us spend the majority of our time thinking about ourselves, so we have to be intentional in stopping to think of others.
It’s common for people to not receive praise on a daily basis, so be that person who gives them the praise and makes them feel amazing! Imagine how wonderfully that will impact that person’s view of you.
Not saying that you should only give praise because you want people to like you, but being well-liked is important to the success of leaders who want to make a difference in the world, so it’s important to acknowledge.
Find people’s good points and provide praise based on their good points in order to come off authentically.
Think of a specific person in your life.
What are some of this person’s best qualities?
For each of the previously listed qualities, what are specific ways that you can show this person that you appreciate them based on his or her best qualities?
Part 3: How To Awaken Desire
Have you ever heard the phrase:
“Bait the hook to suit the fish.”
If you want to catch a fish, you don’t put what you want on the hook… You put what the fish wants on the hook.
Same goes for people.
Try to see the other person’s point of view from as many angles as possible.
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and think:
“If I was (*insert name here*), what would make me want to do this task?”
Then, present your offer in a way that’s beneficial to the other person.
If it feels icky, you may not be doing it for the right reasons. You should feel good, not guilty, about the deal you are making with the other person because both of you should benefit from the deal.
Think of a specific time when you wanted someone to do something for you.
How did you go about asking that person to complete the task?
Who is the person about whom you are thinking?
What does this person like?
What does this person want?
How could you relate that task you need to be completed to something that person likes or wants?
Now that you know how the task is relatable to the person’s desires, how could you get the person to do the task for you while making it beneficial for them as well?